You can scatter ashes by casting them into the wind using a scattering tube. Other options include creating a garden feature or letting the ashes wash them away.

If you want to say a few words before scattering the ashes, you could give a brief history of the person who died and share some of the things you’ll remember most about them.

Hold the scattering tube at waist height before scattering the ashes, and make sure your friends and family are standing upwind.

The moment can be over quickly, so you may want someone to take a few photos for you to look back on.

If you don’t like the idea of scattering the ashes, you could place them in an urn and keep them at home – or you could even get them interred at your local cemetery.

A graveside service can follow a traditional funeral, can precede a memorial service, or can be a stand-alone event. The service will be held at the graveside, or at the crypt where the body or cremated remains will be interred.

The funeral officiant will likely recite prayers or readings, a eulogy may be delivered, and the body will be lowered into the ground or placed in the crypt.

In many cultures it is customary to have guests participate in shovelling dirt into the grave.

You can have music or live singers/musicians if you wish.

You would normally choose your celebrant according to the amount of spirituality or religiosity you want to include. Your Priest would supply the traditional religious service; a Humanist would offer a service that may include no religious content at all; and a Civil Funeral Celebrant will tailor-make a service to reflect your and your family’s beliefs. It can have the music, readings – also, readers – that you want. Usually, it will be a celebration of life.

The fact is that there is flexibility and it is unique to you.

Funeral celebrants will make an appointment to visit you and find out what your needs are. They will be able to explain what will take place at the funeral and help put your mind at ease. Civil Celebrants will question you about your loved one, and try and build up a picture of them for use in the eulogy (assuming there is one).

Ceremonies can be created for funerals at crematoria, cemeteries (natural or otherwise), and also for memorial dedications, graveside tributes or scattering of ashes.

Bereavement is the experience of losing someone important to us. It is characterised by grief, which is the process and the range of emotions we go through as we gradually adjust to the loss.

Losing someone important to us can be emotionally devastating – whether that be a partner, family member, friend or pet. It is natural to go through a range of physical and emotional processes as we gradually come to terms with the loss. See our page on experiences of grief for information about the types of feelings that are common during the grieving process.

Bereavement affects everyone in different ways, and it’s possible to experience any range of emotions. There is no right or wrong way to feel.